AITA friend for cutting off BFF since 2007?!

asking for a friend, AITA friend for 'ghosting/cut off' my MAIN 1 BFF. ( now im 30f, she's 31) context, we met in 7th grade, we had a small group of friends that we were considered the weird kids or losers in school. thats what made us so close, me who never gave a shit what anybody has to say (when family hurts you first, irrelevant humans can not add damage.) almost everyday the "mean girls" of school always had something to bully us by. I used their voices to become stronger for our group. I had become my girls protector. not only am I about 5' taller than her ( I stand at a whopping 5 ft even, she's a petite lady) we had some similar backgrounds that grew us closer.

ex.) she had only one parent raising her and her older brother because their other parent chose to walk away and drink/drugs. she had it pretty rough with not only being small but she was under the strict rules of her present parent, not ever going to school events, no sleep overs at other houses etc.

but that didn't stop us from growing. around this time AOL (aim) was hoooooot. (with my free dial up 😂) we were still able to communicate almost daily.

fast forward to high school, inseparable we are. everyone knew us at this point, if we weren't walking to class together, wed get asked where our other person is. we would skip class all the time, walk to get us some coffees and not have a care in the world. we were such baboons together we even got kicked out of chorus and told we weren't allowed to preform at this next concert. we didn't care, we sat there laughing the world away.

yay fun stuff we graduated together, went to all the parties she finally was granted freedom to start staying out at. night. we totally abused that freedom. most nights we went out, we would stumble into my house cocked off our rears between 3-5 am. some nights my short ass had to carry hers because she couldn't walk . (the most funniest moments)

more time passes, I go to school for primal justice I also have my first child around this time. Unfortunately she was not made the godmother and that upset her. ( she doesn't even like kids but put up with mine) this was our first petty fight. (not worth talking about I haven't even got to the year 2025 yet) she goes to beauty school.

due to having my child at 20 I paused school and started working my next big career. Horticulture. I was the fastest employer to go from no knowledge to becoming a head grower. she didn't care, at the time she was against 420. Unfortunately, I always ended up smelling like the plants (best smell ever), she couldn't stand the smell so we hung out less, but snapped DAILY.

she finally meets her Mr. right. I couldn't be anymore happy for her( took her almost 27 years to land a bf, so yes I was thrilled.) great guy treats her like a queen she deserves. after a year of them together she moves 1 hr 30mins away from me. I move in with my partner. I drove many times to see her and her new place( they have 3 cats- this is important to know.) when I moved into mine, I had a 10gallon fish tank ONE cat and a caged ferret. NOT once has she attempted to come visit me and lil family, mind you I live 20 mins from her parents home that she travels to either every weekend or other weekend. she always told me "there's to many animals in the house." or "its too far" "ya know im not the biggest fan of your partner" (they didn't need to be home for her to swing through) or its " no offense but your kids kind of an ass, this is the perfect birthcontol watching how they are." etc.

yes, my child is kinda of an ass, but im only allowed to point that out, he's also on the spectrum and medicated, so half of it is NOT my Childs fault. yes she was well aware of his needs too.

NOOW finally comes the day my girl is supposed to get married. growing up we always talked about our weddings. typical girl talk. OFC im over the moon for her and this magical time, her bff helping with the wedding. well it didn't happen like that. as I tell her let me know what I can do if anything to help, she's stringing me along, "yes ofc, working out the deets and let you know."

another long story short, she hits me with " we want a small justice of the peace, with either 2-4 witnesses plus photos". im think, 'sweet, if she doesn't ask me to be her MOH or BM I can at least do her photos' as I do small photography on the side. NOPE, boy was I wrong. I was just someone to vent too and cry too. she TOLD me, 'im not having my friends there just my brother and parent, and same for husband." okay sure not a problem for me....UNTIL after the ceremony about a week or two after, she's overly excited to tell me everything. and she slips up the fact she had ANOTHER friend there to 'just help get ready' for the wedding, and take photos on their iPhone. yes ofc I felt some type of way because she WASNT going to tell me about this other friend there, I squeezed t out of her by saying " oh that was nice of some strangers taking photos of y'all" she replied with " oh no that was so and so...(paused for sec, realized her mistake).. ya know because she's closer and what not." ( this other girl and I live the same distance the opposite direction. I congratulated them, so happy for them and haven't talked to them in a whole year. no birthday texts or holidays, straight silence. that was the straw on the camels back for me.

does that make me TAF? asking for a friend. me and my child are that friend. lmk.