Anyone else?

I think I might be a lesbian and it’s consuming my entire brain. I keep trying to talk myself out of it, but every time someone tells me ‘maybe you’ll meet a man someday,’ it doesn’t actually make me feel better. Deep down, I feel like my attraction to women is real, but my brain is terrified of what that would mean for my life and identity.
I’m 27 and suddenly reexamining every experience I’ve had with men. A lot of my relationships or interactions with them were filled with anxiety, disgust, stress, or me pulling away entirely. Now I’m wondering if I was ever actually attracted to them or if I just assumed I was supposed to be.
The hardest part is that I feel like I know something, but I can’t fully accept it yet. It feels like my body and emotions are screaming one thing while my mind keeps panicking and trying to keep the door open to being attracted to men. Did anyone else go through this kind of intense identity spiral before realizing they were a lesbian/queer? How did you stop questioning yourself every second of the day