Don't know what to make of his behavior

Hi! So it's my first relationship and I'm not sure how to interpret his behavior. I'm 25, he's 26. We're together since October. We live 25 minutes from each other.

I am kinda hurt right now because I sometimes feel like I'm not a priority for him. I know he loves me, but we only see each other once, maybe twice a week. That's okay for me, if we talk on the phone in between, but I always have to ask for it and he doesn't really take the initiative. I talked with him about it, he just said that he isn't the type to call. But when we talk it can last hours and not because I talk so much, he does as well.

I always have to ask about meeting up and calls and it kinda makes me feel like I'm bothering him with it/ am being too needy. I like to plan things in advance, he's spontaneous. That doesn't really make it easier.

Just a few days ago when we met up I asked about his plans for the week and when we can see each other. He told me about meeting up with friends, going to the gym etc. and said that we can see each other on the weekend. Then yesterday we texted and I asked if we can talk in the evening and he just texted "not today, sorry". Later he told me about playing video games with friends all evening. Normally he says something like "I'm sorry, I have to .... I'll call you tomorrow!".

I asked him about it and he said that he's just busy right now, but loves me. I just feel that if he can make time for friends, going to the gym etc then he could make time for me if he wanted to.

I tend to overthink things and I'm not sure if I'm 'justified' (for lack of better word) or if I'm just being needy. We text daily, he sends me daily good morning and good night texts and asks about my day. My mom says that I need to concentrate more on myself, my friends and studies. I'm just really in love with him and ideally would like to see/talk to him more.

Also, English is my third language and I'm writing this on mobile, so sorry for mistakes and formatting 😊

Posted May 12, 2026, 2:41 PM UTC

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