What is love? Baby don't hurt me

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This may or may not be long but more like a rant.

THIS IS A FXCKING RANT YES

Addressing the elephant directly.

I've never been in a relationship. (I want to)

Now it's not that I can't pull(I can't) but also that I kind of have never been on the radar as well. I don't think so I'm bad in any way, I'm decent looking, I do have a decent to maybe Good personality, have hobbies and communication skills too, heck I've been called husband material a few times too. (THIS IS NOT A BRAG PLS)

I'm not anti-social, I'm good in social terms- an INFJ for those mbti heads who might know.

I'm quite alright in one on one chats with people, I am interested in what they're saying, why they're saying (and also what made them believe in those things).

Like yes, a good listener and a good yapper (on a good day)

But I STILL can't talk to women since I STILL believe I would come out as creep, which has resulted to me having just one सखी. While I see people having multiple सखियां and stuff. (My सखी HAS confirmed ki meri image acchi hai sabke saamne BUT I STILL CAN'T DAWG)

The ones I befriend are the ones who reach out first, nahi toh I never talk to anyone. I am open and actually try to be really genuine with people I interact with.

but how do I be on the radar??

I be seeing guys with literal questionable personalities get closer to the ladies.

LIKE GIRL HE FUCKING LEFT HIS LD-GF CUZ OF YOU AND YOU THINK HES NOT GONNA DO THAT TO YOU 😭😭✋🏿 Meanwhile He has had 10-15+ girls BEFORE.

Which gets me to my next point.

What are the ladies yapping about on the internet?

"Ouu I want a guy who would treat me like a queenn, talk to me everydayyy the same way, listen to my thingss, memorize shit and also get me hand made things"

Like girl what have you been doing to be treated like that?😭

you be talking to multiple guys, doing things to farm max attention and stuff. I get it, sure we all crave attention and all have our personal choices for our lives and I'm noone to comment on that.

And let's say if a guy DOES treat you like you want to, and he's actually very very sweet, is a greenflag even, you leave him cuz you got bored 😭😭

Y'all ghost the good ones,

what do y'all even want? Y'all mention green flag things, but the moment someone treats you like that, you call it boring 😭

AND THE SHEER AUDACITY to go on the net and write "all men are dogs, they disrespect us and shit" after CHOOSING to be treated like that??? Gurl wtf.

(I do not mean to say y'all are wrong, I do acknowledge that a huge part of the guy crowd is shit people)

And no, it's not only the women, ALSO Y'ALL CRAZY FUXKERS, y'all be talking to multiple women, farming crazy attention and all that shit and also even actually ruining ladkiyo ka perception about relationships in particular.

Dawg tumhari wajah se they all start to question and appreciating even the bare minimum treatment one gives 😭

I AM a big time old schooler, I want that long term bs where I AM with the person while we face ups and downs and all those sweet and bitter sounding stuff.

But modern dating and shit has just ruined it all for me.

Mai khud doodh ka dhula nahi hu, I had my fair share of yearning for a girl who didn't take it any forward too (it was online and I am dumb, But I was serious about her).

So yes I won't be someone's first, infact I doubt if I would ever be someone's first in this era where everyone has actually committed to someone before.

I get it that THERE ARE people out there who still ARE into the old school things, want that long term things.

but.. I don't see noone around me gang. I have a few सखियां online, and most of them have HAD bfs before (and some of them are the problem themselves)

Heck I know only 1 सखी jo actually aajtak rship me nahi rahi hai.

And honestly hearing ALL this bs, tea and चोदभांगड़ा of everyone around me who have done all those things which has led ME, YES ME WHO YEARNS SO BAD AND IS OPTIMISTIC about all this, to also lose hopes for finding someone..

Who honestly isn't even that hard to find.

Dawg I just want someone to appreciate the world with, gossip about the people around us, walk holding hands and just being there for each other and working for each other. Oh and also cutie bhi 🥺

IS IT THAT HARD, HOW ARE YALL EVEN PULLING PEOPLE 😭😭

I srsly don't wanna go on that playboy arc where I am in every girl's dm flirting and doing all the things MFS be doing.

Like man, there's this guy, ISKA 2-3 SAAL SE BADHIYA CHALRA THA, and LDR hua toh somehow they broke up..

and ONG THIS GUY IS ON A ROLLL, he isn't even a 10 but is a fucking simp, has tried on almost every Good looking ladki of our batch, and ek baar me multiple ladkiyo se baat Krna, Heck I've heard he might've banged a few too.. guys like this highkey disgust me (and I lowkey envy them too)

KYA KIYA HAI USNE AISA? IDEK BUT HE'S PLAYING.

Man life is unfair, uspe bc engineering ne alag maar rkha hai ✋🏿🥀

TL;dr- poora post padhlo random rant hi hai.

And no, none of the examples I gave are directed towards me nor are my experiences.

Also do lmk such crazy examples which you have from your experiences (would like to lose more hopes)