DAE regret taking their relationship for granted sometimes

(This feels a little out of place I know I tried to post it on r/vent but they said to bring it here)

Me and my bf are young, but we’ve been together for 2 and 1/2 years. We had moved in with together away from home over the winter and I can’t say it went great. I have an issue where I stress myself out and try to act like my problems are big adult problems even though they’re not.

I should’ve been having fun that whole time, working and living with my boyfriend for the first time, but I wasn’t. I was so unhappy. I was yelling at this poor man probably daily and taking a lot of stress out on him. Since I felt as though I was carrying all the mental weight, I put a lot of physical tasks on him. I acted like a parent instead of a partner. Did I have problems in life, yes, but I should’ve been able to find a way to be happy because I was very lucky.

This is exactly what I was afraid would happen we’ve now both moved back in with our parents and I’ve turned into a naggy bitch sometimes and I don’t like the way that I talk to him. I know I needed to do something.

Yesterday he came to me telling me he hasn’t been happy and that he doesn’t want a relationship no influencing his decisions during this part of his life and I said I had been thinking the same thing. He proceeded to tell me how he’s not going to accept the way I talk to him sometimes and that he hasn’t been happy and he didn’t think he could be with me for the rest of his life. He says it might just be something that I do since he sees it in the way my mom talks to me which is a fair conclusion.

After a few hours of talking about it the conversation shifted to him saying he doesn’t want to be with anyone else if he cant be with me and that we can still talk and be friends, but that was what i hoped all along. Was there a part of me that hoped wed break up for awhile now, maybe, but now that it’s happening i want the opportunity to change and i want it to be for him. If I can’t be happy with him then idk who I’d be happy with. I’m not gonna lie I’ve thought about dating other people during our relationship, but I had always come to the conclusion that our relationship was worth it and he was special to me. I can’t imagine meeting a better partner. Sure he has plenty of flaws, but the good always outweighs the bad for me.

We’ve both changed a lot too and our relationship has changed. We communicate now, express our feeling, improve change. I thought things would be ok. I didn’t even know I would be able to change this much, but I have, for him. I shouldnt have taken for granted the time we spent together.