women really aren’t that difficult to figure out

I remember growing up I would always hear other guys talk about how women are hard to understand and how they can’t “figure them out”. Then when I would press further it’s not that the woman is speaking some foreign language men aren’t privy to, it’s just that some guys don’t actually *listen* to women.

A lot of times they will go to other men to figure out what women want instead of directly asking the women in question. And when women say what they want they think they mean something else. I have a girlfriend and i never found it hard to understand her (or my ex gf). I think some people aren’t active listeners. you can speak to someone for an hour and it would go in one ear and leave the other. some guys (intentionally or unintentionally) don’t take the time to care what you want despite you repeating yourself several times. Before being in a relationship I hung out with both guys and girls and even as an adult I’ve realised that men and women aren’t really that different.