preferences

im a masc/straight passing gay man, is it me or the gay community sorta makes preferences such a big deal, like im a masc men, i get turnt on by other masc men. I can totally be emotionally close with femme gay men and they are not less than men, so i kinda wonder why its such a huge deal or seen as internalized homophobia to other gays to enjoy/desire gay masc men. I had someone from hinge kinda scold me that my preference is very mainstream and need to give other types a chance, but it feels unfair to tell someone. I think people are really underestimating what gay masc men go through, people showing conditional love and only tolerating you because you dont "fit the sterotypes", or assumed you can be turnt back into straight because people think masc=straight. the "validation" gay masc men get arent as validating as it seems.