how you meet women for casual connections without dating apps and not involving alcohol?

context: trans lesbian, been on HRT for >2 years, AuDHD, questioning if asexual, working adult, late 20s age

i have been a little um interested lately (extremely rare for me) and i think i’m ready to try casual dating. i really hate dating apps and i downloaded some and matched with some interesting people that are also down for casual but i cannot get myself to reply to them. i don’t feel like i can be myself on dating apps so i mask to all hell which is exhausting… and then i don’t reply because of the energy required.

that leaves meeting people in person which is so so much better… except the majority of the sapphic meetups in my area involve alcohol and i don’t drink and don’t want to drink. it feels wrong to go to those events sober and try to meet women. the few that don’t center alcohol are infrequent and when i go i seem to meet women already in relationships (especially with men lol). my local sports league ended recently so that’s not an option either

so what to do?