Tips for boosting libido?

Advice

I know, I know. Everyone told me breastfeeding would tank my libido. But goddammit I just wanna crave sex again!

My husband does everything right. He does almost all of the cooking and housework despite being the almost full time breadwinner (I'm working 2 days a week while he watches the baby), he's attentive with our daughter, 5 months. He doesn't pressure me at all, and regularly gives me physical affection that doesn't aim for sex and calls me and my postpartum body beautiful. There's genuinely nothing he could be doing to make me feel better. I just don't really want sex that often. Most days I'd be happy to just read my book or make a snack instead of having sex lol.

Before I got pregnant we were getting it in every day, sometimes twice a day. Now it's still a few times a week, but I mentally drag my feet about it. I never make him feel unwanted, but he knows that I'm mentally drained and my hormones are whack from breastfeeding so he doesn't take it personally when I say no, I'm just not feeling it. Also we have to rush most times because the baby doesn't often nap solo for longer than 30-45 minutes. But when we do have sex I love it! I just miss that feeling of being excited to see him when he gets home and getting to (literally) fuck around all evening.

Any tips? Is this just a phase we have to get through? Has anyone had any luck with boosting libido through supplements or exercise or anything?

Posted May 12, 2026, 3:01 PM UTC

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