Marry me already bud!

A bit of a rant. A need for encouragement.

My partner is wonderful! We have spoken about marriage for a long time. We both want it. I've found the ring he got me. I've brought it up in conversation over and over. And yet he still won't ask me to marry him. We both had previous marriages and both want more children. And we are so excited that I am pregnant!

And yet....

He still hasn't asked me to marry him!

Wtf?!

He said he was waiting for the right time....and I don't see a more right time here...

But even though I am not concerned about his desire to be with me, I don't want to be seen by our family and coworkers etc. As being knocked up and having him marry me just because of that. Assuming he ever gets around to it. Also trying to balance the clear communication and the allowance of being surprised. I find that I am just so annoyed. Pregnancy hormones are not making this any easier. And I care less and less everyday about it being special. Its starting to feel like a respect issue for me. Like don't you want people to think you chose this? Don't you want people to think your woman is respectable? Or am I stuck in some old school way of thinking? I am just dreading telling my work and family that I am pregnant and unmarried. Or telling them we are getting married and immediately following up with also pregnant.