I dont have any friends

basically the title. im 21M, I dropped out of the state college at 18 i moved to the city and now im a bartender. all my highschool friends have drifted and quite honestly i dont even think i like them anymore. everyone i meet through my job is just annoying or 50 or an alcoholic. the only people i hang out with are my barely tolerable coworkers and all we do is drink together because we really cant stand eachother. My boyfriend has tons of friends and i try to connect and talk. Theyre nice and they like me enough i just dont like them at all. Every new friendship i find myself realizing i just do not like the other person. Not for anything serious like a bad personality trait or anything i just dont seem to click with anybody.
Is it me? Is there something about me that im not seeing? Am I too picky? I go through phases where im kind of okay with everyone and feel better but i just end up feeling like this again. I dont connect with anybody, nobody enjoys my very few hobbies and everybody thinks im quiet and weird. Every interaction is filled with awkward silence and everywhere i go i just feel like im in high school again.
Is this just socializing as an adult or am i doing something wrong?