extended title: "RE: women with no friends or family are red flags," "male-centered women" topic

Everyone talks about community, but nobody wants to be the community. I feel like some male centered women are a direct byproduct from other women shitting on other women. At one point, I think I realized I couldn't have it all, friends and a relationship and got exhausted from being friends and family with women who abused me to regulate their emotions. There's also a lot of shaming towards women who struggle in friendships. When you decide to put romantic relationships first, other women hate you even more. 

If my friends come from my relationship partner, I'm fine with that. But I have spent 18 years pouring into women who have harmed me and 2 years of avoiding women who showcase the same qualities of the woman who abused her power as a parent.

When your first bully is your maternal figure, the others will be women, too. Sisters. Cousins. Best friends. Friends. Acquaintances. Co-workers. Motjer in laws. All of whom would rather stomp on you than ever seen you be confident and happy. And you will have held them, let them cry on your shoulder, be there for them in their darkest moments only for them to shit on you, put you in dangerous situations, screw you over for male validation, spread rumors about you to push you to kill yourself all because you stepped on an invisible eggshell. 

I know this is controversial, but... it's just where I'm at. I can't take any more and I'm old enough to be thinking about the rest of my life and if I have any choice, I'd rather be with a man who I can do life with over being around women who go for my Achilles heel because, "Why her and not me?"

No, not all women. But it was more than enough for me for a lifetime. Sorry.

Tl;dr: abusive women make female friendships impossible

RE: "women with no friends or family are red flags"