Girl that was very outgoing and friendly with me and I complimented her like 5 months ago acted weird.
This could be long,bare with me to give you the scenario.
There's this girl that works as a cashier at some cafe barista type of service. The times I came to her job she would look and sound optimistic towards me, asked me how my day was going and even to the extent asked what were my plans for the day (she did this like 2 times)🤔.Then one time,she mentioned about a new competition cafe company opening around her block of their cafe business and she heard good comments from other customers (again,I thought maybe she wanted me to ask her out to try out the place?🤔). Little hints like this I worked my courage to tell her what's up and shoot my shot. Even one guy friend that I invited one time said,that girl really looks into you and her attention in centered on you when you walk in,etc..So that worked my courage to tell her what's up.
Anyways, one day sometime the end of December or early January.I went to her job,we were again chatting it up and I finally gave her a compliment that I think she's attractive and I find her pretty,she got all red and shy to possibly even nervous and thank me for it.I tried to get her phone number but since she's at her job and many people were showing up since I told her my confession at window of opportunity when there was like nobody from the public present so it won't come off as awkward because I felt this could turn awkward for her or to see her reaction.
But people were already coming into her job establishment and her reaction I felt I gotta get going , maybe another time I'll get her number-- I told myself in my mind. Let her put herself back together because such confession she got all blushy,which sound like I did good..
During those days of those months that I visited her, I had a different schedule at my job that I would come on certain days of my days off.
Anyways,when they changed my job hours schedule I tried to visit her at different hours but she wasn't there during that time of the day. I would ask certain co-workers if she was there,obviously many people would avoid giving any personal information of her and to others colleagues I would say to say hello to her for me,give them my name and I kept it I moved on with my day.
Anyways,it was like that until recently they changed back by job schedule hours and I finally saw her after 5 months just last night. I walked in and saw her,she looked kinda frozen, I told her:" Oh, hey there Clara, how have you been long time no see".. She acted like nervous, avoidant,her eyes were moving from side to side,or an empty stare and back to shifting her eyes like she wanted like the earth to swallow her or something.
She didn't asked me how I had been,or what's new-nothing not a word nor question. No more conversations. Her energy felt weird as she wasn't asking or inquiring of my well-being nor follow up with any type of conversation.Her co-worker prepared my drink --I just got my coffee and walked out of there and told her I'll see you when I see you and that was the end of my talking and I walked out of there.
Do you think I threw her off from my compliment and/or came off as awkward??. Last night after not seeing for so long, I actually was feeling like some creep.
Let me know if my mind is overacting or is she re-establishing new boundaries and/or if her energy is no longer inviting and I know it's been a good minute that I haven't seen her and the last time I saw her it was when I gave her the compliment. What do you think??.
Thank you in advance.
Posted May 13, 2026, 6:27 PM UTC