Why the f have I spent $$$$ on my friends’ weddings, but they can’t find childcare with a year in advance???

I have rented cars, flights, entire house airbnbs (because they got married in fuckass no where Midwest farms) to go to these people’s weddings, but not that it’s my turn - they can’t find childcare? I sent the save the dates a YEAR ago??

AND not to mention all of these people live in the same neighborhoods with their parents - so the kids’ grandparents are near for help.

One couple gets a pass because they have a newborn, but the rest have 2, 3, 4 year olds. It’s bullshit honestly. And we’re having a small wedding of 50 ppl - which means we only invited our BEST best friends.

So fucking annoying