i’m scared my boyfriend will never tell his family about us and i’m just wasting my time staying with him

his family is extremely racist and they want their son to be with a woman of his own culture. he told me how his family loved his ex and how they would always spoil her with a ton of things and vacations. a few months within their relationship she moved in with him, meanwhile i can’t even get an invite over to his house (his parents own the house but don’t live with him but they unexpectedly stop by). we’ve been together for nearly 2 YEARS and he hasn’t mentioned anything to his parents at all, they actually think he’s been single for the past 2 years.

i mentioned to him how one of my friends eloped the other day, and he said “sometimes that’s the right thing to do when your parents are old, racist, and refuse to change their outdated ignorant views”. but it just made me wonder how long i’m going to be kept hidden from his family, i don’t want to be kept a secret..all his friends and coworkers know about me but he refuses to tell his family because he’s scared he’ll be disowned. of course i don’t want him to break up his family but i also don’t want to be kept a secret when i know there’s other people out there that are willing to tell their family and actually integrate me within their lives.

i dont know what to do anymore.. i dont want to waste my time with him and then he ends up leaving with a woman of his culture just to please his family..