LO has some concerning behaviors and situations from preschool.

It first started with coming home hurt from the same boy: bump/small gash on the forehead, being scratched/punched etc. the teacher always says they didn’t see it, but are working with the kid. I have no idea if the other parents are aware.

Now other kids are becoming physical with her as well with the marks to show.

Then the reenactment of the day: screaming “not now!” or “come on baby, I need you. Come back here. Come sit with me” or “wow, you’re losing weight” while physically stroking her belly up and down. There are other things too that I can’t recall off the top of my head atm. I ask where she heard what she’s repeating, and initially she shuts down and doesn’t want to talk about it, but will later tell me she heard it from a grown up, but that’s it.

My LO is a very happy kid. However she is recently very sensitive over small things. She’s not a “cry baby”, but she’s been crying over things that she normally wouldn’t worry about, saying she doesn’t want to go to school. Her mood has changed during drop off and is kind of a loner now, whereas before she was happy and interacting with others.

The school district is going through some changes right now. This in itself is not cause for concern, but a few years back the district got caught actively protecting a pedophile in their elementary school. The discovery caused a change in administration and some faculty, so this new sudden change is unsettling.

And now we’re trying to prepare her for kindergarten. We thought the normal process would be to set up a meet and greet with her assigned teacher once the teacher is assigned. But no, that happens later. It’s the same district, so they have her in the system, but the school is new. What they want is for us to show up at our assigned appointment, wait in the car while they walk her into the school to meet with some staff, do some assessments, and they’ll bring her back to us when she’s done.

We are actively trying to teach her about stranger danger. Doing all of this is the opposite of what we tell her: don’t talk to strangers, don’t go with strangers, etc. Plus, they expect me to just send her off with people I haven’t even met yet? Knowing they had a pedophile problem?

Would you consider it overeating to pull her out of the program and district? I know stuff can happen at any school, but all of these seem like huge red flags.