Weirdness with internalising information and social rules

Typing out the title makes me realize the answer is probably 'of course' but I figure I'd describe the entire realization.

So to figure out left and right, I have to check my dominant hand. I often struggle with non-standard pronouns when I lack visual cues. Online, I tend to check thier info to remind myself and offline I often default to 'they' or just try not to use the gender when I'm not sure. This extends to me often just not registering people until I have sufficient interactions.

I've had a person who came to multiple events I organized, who I talked to but didn't realise they were the same person until someone mentioned it. I remember the events and my interactions perfectly, I just don't always realise that two interactions might be with the same person.

It's a struggle, especially when I know someone both online and offline, plus because my current friends play dnd, then we add the character handles. I often have default 'macros' that I run when interacting with people or particular situations and it can be bad when I choose the wrong one.

I can internalise information very quickly when it has to do with my special interests, be they topics or people. For example, I never have difficulties with accomodating people who fit all the letters of LGBTQIA accept the I and A. I do have a transfem friend, but she transitioned after she moved to another country, so I don't interact enough to internalise it.

(I almost defaulted to 'they' here.)

I also remember people if they are striking somehow whether by being attractive, wearing interesting outfits, being what I think is 'cool' or 'interesting' etc. Also if I experience something emotionally or as I say 'viscerally'. It feels like I'm viewing the world in blur, but instead of glasses I have these roving points of focus and if something catches my attention, I fix myself upon them.

I'm definitely feeling like I might have ended up describing fundamental parts of audhd behavior, but it would be nice to know if others experience it the same way. I am realizing ways to deal with this, like using my special interests as vehicles for engagement but I'd allow love to see how others handle things if you experience things similarly.