Breaking the cycle and losing weight

Hi, I (36f) have an 8 month old daughter. I gained about 40 pounds during pregnancy to a max of 180 (I am 5’5”) and have leveled off around 165lbs but would like to get back to my starting weight in the 140s. Honestly even the low 150s.

The thing that’s been weighing on me is that I don’t want my daughter to grow up the way I did, with a weight obsessed mother who’s own values ended up instilling an eating disorder in me for a long time. I have a complicated history with food and weight, and it has consumed so much of my life, and I would hate for my daughter to have to go through that.

How can I count calories and diet when I want to model to her someone who loves their body so that she can learn to love herself someday? I’m just feeling very morally conflicted about it, but I’m also tired of feeling heavier than I like.