Feeling overwhelmed

Need Advice

Warning: This is literally me venting and also asking a lot of questions. Thank you for listening!!

Backstory: I literally have no experience with dating, therefore I feel extremely nervous about anything in this realm. Even if I was dating a more mature Christian, I’d probably feel just as scared lol, because obviously just because someone is a Christian doesn’t mean they have the same morals. I’m not sure who to talk to about this, so I’m coming to the internet lol.

So me and this guy started talking. He’s very sweet, kind, and intentional. HOWEVER he is a new Christian. He just started going to church after several years of not going. I haven’t really had a deep talk to him about his relationship with Jesus yet, but I have asked him a few questions, so I know a little.

We’ve gone out several times, and he’s already asked what my morals, and he basically told me he’s still a work in progress. I told him my morals are biblically based, but to be honest I wasn’t too specific. Of course I mentioned that being a Christian is Jesus constantly refining you, but I feel like he was hesitant to have a deeper conversation about that. It got kinda quiet, and he apologized for making it awkward. But it wasn’t even awkward, I just genuinely am so new to this, so I wasn’t sure what questions to ask.

So long story short, he has invited me over his house tomorrow after church. I’m scared just because I’m not sure what he’s expecting because once again I don’t know him. If anyone knows me they would know that I’m very strong in my boundaries based off of my morals HOWEVER I’m not sure how to mention those things? For instance, I want to mention that I’m waiting for marriage, but how do I bring that up?? I want to tell him this before I visit his house, and we are supposed to go out for lunch which would be the perfect time. This is all so much for me and I wish I didn’t over complicate things or wasn’t so scared. I don’t even think it’s really him because he’s never pressured me and so far has been very understanding of things I’ve told him. I know that even if I was dating someone a little more mature in there beliefs I would probably still have all these questions because I wanna make sure they respect my boundaries.

Posted May 24, 2026, 2:47 AM UTC

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