What am I doing Wrong?

I hate being equally meticulous and oblivious.

my partner of many months sent me a text in the middle of a dress Rehearsal that she wanted to take a break and just be friends for a bit because she felt like we rushed into our relationship. I was fine with giving ourselves time to recalibrate before dating again.

it has been a month or so since then, and I have been trying to reconnect with her so we could try dating again now that I worked on my mental health and was in a better headspace. only for me to find out today that she started dating one of my friends and everyone else in the friend group knew and acknowledged our relationship as over.

and I hate how this isn’t the first time. Even before we started dating, I told her that my previous partner asked to go back to friends and once we tried dating again, she basically dropped me.

i feel like they wanted to break up but were too nice to be direct. So I hate that no matter how much I try to be clear and direct and analyze every important chat we have, I still miss what they actually want to say.
and I hate that I can’t tell if it’s something I do, something I say, or just the way I am.