Autism + women + conventionally attractive = everyone assumes you’re mean

Growing up I was criticized for my looks due to being neglected (looking disheveled, overweight, hair, the list goes on). However as an adult I learned how to take care of myself, but have come to the realization that I just come off as a bitch now. Before people would straight up tell me I was creepy to my face. Now my seriousness/lack of facial expressions + appearance make people assume I’m cold. And when I try to be kind people think I’m flirting with them (especially guys, despite being a lesbian). :/ i fear there is no winning.