Husband is not being supportive.

My gastric sleeve surgery is Tuesday and I’m honestly terrified, not just about the surgery itself but about my marriage.

My husband has never really been supportive of this decision. He constantly complains about the inconvenience of my diet and recovery, and now that I’m going into the soft food stage afterward, he refuses to eat anything similar even though we genuinely cannot afford separate groceries right now. My surgeon’s plan has me on soft foods for 6 months, and instead of trying to work with me, he acts annoyed and resentful about it.

He also belittles me a lot over this whole process. Sometimes he makes me feel stupid or dramatic for needing help or accommodations after a major surgery. I already feel vulnerable enough going into this.

The hardest part is that he’s the only person I have here to help me after surgery. I have no friends nearby and my family lives 10 hours away, so I feel completely alone and trapped depending on someone who doesn’t even seem to want to support me.

Did anyone else’s relationship or marriage change after bariatric surgery? Did anyone end up divorced afterward? I keep hearing surgery changes relationships and I’m scared mine is already breaking before it even starts.

I think I just need honesty and support from people who understand this process.