Idk how to explain it, but what I really hate about our growth arc is how dislodged it is.

Like Idk how secure people grow, but I feel like anxious-insecure/avoidant growth looks way different.

Like it's earth shattering to grow from our POV, both for a more securely grounded individual it's not that frightening idk.

To me it feels like, I have to let go of my arm then screw a new one then learn how to use that arm. And for normal people they just learn how to use that arm better?

Idk if I'm making any sense here, I just feel like our growth is so drastic and dislodged like some type of uncomfortable inspector gadget mode.

I suspect, because we grew the wrong way it's more painful to course correct and grow properly now. Idk