getting upset over everything

i’ve been noticing this more recently but i get extremely upset over the smallest things and it specifically is if my mom is doing something. for example if she wants to come sleep in my room with me or if she keeps changing dates on something it really bothers me like nothing else like it full on makes me panicky and like the type of rage where your shaking and your heart is beating really fast but it’s only with her. if i’m doing really bad mentally i’ll feel really hopeless or sad over minor inconveniences and cry it out in bed and not leave it for a few days or if someone else were to do the thing she does it really wouldn’t infuriate me as much as it does when she does it. i feel really bad i love my mom even if we have a really rocky relationship atm i hate getting mad at her because i can tell she’s actually trying to understand me when i don’t even understand myself :(