31 [M4F] #Pennsylvania - One of those non-Christian HoHs who doesn't want kids but still wants a traditional relationship.

Before we get into the meat of things, here are my dealbreakers. I'm not exactly what you think of when you think "traditional relationship": I'm childfree and an atheist. I have a pitbull mix that I'm training to be less scared of people. I don't currently drive.

Now for the important part. I want a traditional relationship in spite of how not-traditional I might seem. I want a home that feels calm, steady, and put together and I want to share that home with a woman who takes pride in the life we’re creating and the role she holds in it. I want something traditional, structured and intentional - something where there's structure because it's what you need to thrive, not because it's something I've forced on you.

I want to build a life for you where you don't have to do anything you don't want to - especially not work. If you want to stay home and take care of the house, go for it. Volunteer at the library? Go for it.

At the core of it, I’m looking for someone to come home to. I want to build you up into the best version of yourself I can, then show you all the ways I’ve helped you grow. To put it succinctly, I want my "one and done with kink involved."

I’m dominant by nature. I take the lead, I set direction, and I create structure. I don't drift and I don't overcomplicate things. I make decisions and I take responsibility for them. I’m looking for a woman who wants that. You should be naturally submissive and drawn to structure, service, and being held to a standard.

The mental centering I get from control is a big part of this for me. I want to know that I can give an order and it’ll be obeyed because you want to obey it. The other part is the pride I get from keeping my submissive on track, being her rock and the person she turns to when the world gets too loud. I want a D/s dynamic that exists every day. Obedience, service, rituals, and discipline when it’s needed.

Outside of kink, I’m a nerd’s nerd with a gym membership. I run a game design company, paint miniatures, and work out five days a week. I walk my dog ten miles a day and fence on Sundays. I’m most comfortable in my office painting or gaming. My favorite dates include bookstores, coffee shops, and farmer’s markets rather than movie theaters or fancy restaurants. I stay active and I expect you to take care of yourself too.

In terms of kinks, I’m a cuddly Dom with a sadistic streak. I’m just as happy to lay you down on the bed and lick between your legs until you shove me away as I am to get the Hitachi and the Bad Dragon and pull orgasm after orgasm from you until you’ve forgotten how to form words. Favorite kinks include anal, begging, bondage (need to practice those knots I learned in Scouts), and overstimulation. I can do pain, but I’m not the biggest fan. Spanking and the occasional face slap are as far as I’ll go.

I’m building for the long term. I own my home, handle my responsibilities, and I’m working toward early retirement in my 40s. I don't play games. I say what I mean and I follow through. I want to lock a collar around your throat and never let you go, but that has to be built on communication, trust, and respect.

If I sound interesting, shoot me a chat. Tell me about yourself, why you decided to message me, and maybe the last museum you visited.

All the best,

Chris