man who got me pregnant, disappeared, blocks me, regularly threatens to file restraining orders when i document unifaction attempts, told his mother i'm a derranged stalker and is now telling my family i need immediate psychiatric care and am dangerous. Unprovoked. Now he claims harassment. Help.

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Hi guys, so normally I would've posted this in the child support reddit but there's way too much wild stuff going on. I just need other humans outside of this drama to let me know what they think of this situation, I am so uncomfortable and angry. Here we go!

So i was told by the child support office that I needed to document every single attempt i made to contact the father and document his hostile responses, going all the way back to the initial pregnancy confirmation. They said to also document every single interaction really, but the big thing was to document attempts to unify the absent parent, family, and baby--- and document proof of their lack of involvement-- and that the father, was made aware of his daughter's impending birth and allowed access and provided photos and updates etc

Very simple and easy enough right?

Theres an issue though, my daughter's father actually blocks me at random and has always done this. Then he threatens me with restraining order bluffs I dont think he is ever gunna follow through on. A lot. Like anytime I try to reach out, he says im crazy and he's gunna get a restrainging order because im harrassing him over a kid that isnt his. (The thing is he knows it is his baby but whatever. He told me blatantly that he knows its his baby but that his mom is the one claiming she wont believe it until she sees a paternity test lol. They wanna make sure they ignore the right baby i guess.)

He blocked me when I found out I was pregnant and told him, i documented that. No biggie but I cried nonstop for weeks and my mom said to call his mom. So then I called his mom and we had a lovely 2 hour chat about everything that lead to the pregnancy and I thought yay, I have a grandma for this little girl. But then he told her I was some insane stalker harasser and that I was making the whole thing up and im probably not even pregnant and to ignore me or he will cut her off financially.

(The brother told me this)

Yay. So she blocked me. Now she thinks im crazy and is telling anyone who will listen that the baby isnt his.

Perfect. Love that.

and welp this is hurtful. And easily disproven. I took it upon myself to get ahold of his brother and the brother was the only nice one who agreed that YESSSSS his brother knew the baby was his--and submitted dna to myheritage!!! and I confirmed my daughter's paternity!!!!

Now please listen I know that the offical paternity testing people at the courthouse cant recognize this dna test bc it isnt official and from their trusted lab, but it 100% says my daughter is his brothers neice. Im hoping at the very least I can use it as evidence to back up that im not some crazy girl making false claims and im just doing what the child support office said i had to do to be proactive about proving their total disinterest in my child. ---or at the very leasttt so that i can say look, father was no where to be found for 8 months, so I reached out to his mom and brother out of desperation

^^again. Only doing this because the child support office told me I needed a pretty decent amount of documented attempts of me trying to involve these people in my daughter's life and document their responses and lack thereof.

I'm just scared because wtf harrassment? Restraining order? Really? After this crazy stunt he pulled today?!!!! BECAUSE LISTEN to this, i am in total disbelief, this is why I'm posting to reddit, im shaking and cant believe this is real. I don't know wtf he's thinking or how he thought this would go:

••He has a tun of old drunk texts of mine, long crazy and definitely concerning out of context, that he just randomly decided he would send my mother today, claiming I was a danger to myself and others and needed immediate psychiatric help and that THIS this is why he ignored my whole existence after impregnanting me, he CLAIMS: he was protecting himself from this derranged woman who's obsessively inlove and tried to trap him. Haha. (He has absolutely nothing to his name. What trap?)

Heres the thing: My mom ate it up because it was totally out of context and appeared crazy. I also have every reason to be mad at him so she believed ALL OF IT at face value, didnt question it because WHY WOULD HE LIE and it shows my number so she believes all of it and proceeds to remove all my devices and dragged me to the shrink, yelling at me that im in psychosis all the way there. Screaming over my pleas that shes just trying to help. The shrink and i had a lovely time reading old texts. Saw lots of super inappropriate messages of a sexual nature that were soo embarrassing to scan through with this psychiatrist who's clearly so uncomfortable, but whatevs we find everything he claims i sent him recently and it appears he is full of shit because theres lots of missing and deleted messages in his versions of these screenshots. Very interesting.

SO WE CATALOG THE GROSS/DRUNK/ANCIENT PARAGRAPHS AND RECENT TEXTS ALIKE FOR FUTURE LEGAL PURPOSESS AND PUT THEM ALL IN BINDER

Then the psychiatrist who just saw tiny pixelated versions of my boobs and this mans genitals about 40 times back to back, happily confirms to my mother that indeed the texts were from years ago and all our recent messages are strictly baby and im absolutely not in psychosis or threatening anyone and I dont need to be admitted to a psyche ward.

Doc said I'm clearly enraged with this stunt. Super visibly shaken and sobbing from frustration but otherwise stable! plus im on meds to help prevent post partum psyche issues. Theres nothing to suggest psychosis whatsoever. Nothing besides his claims.

-----soooo

Now my mom is on the war path and my daughters father has lost all credibility. >>>> and because the devil sends me endless love the only way he knows how>>>>>> She then gets old lady drunk and particularly brave, starts texting him screenshots disproving his claims to vindicate me and tells him to go ahead and call the cops, and file whatever harrasment charges he needs to because she would love to explain to the officer how he orchestraed and intentionally withheld information to make me look unstable. For. No. Reason.

Unprovoked.

This shell of a man, told my mother i was threatening his life, DANGEROUS, needed immediate psychiatric care. I JUST CANT BELIEVE THIS IS MY LIFE LOL crying as i type this I'm so tired why why why did I ever bother with this loser

Then she texts his mother screenshots of his inconsistencies and to let know her son did an incredible job of convincing her i needed to be institutionalized. she believed it so whole heartedly that she drove me straight there herself and ignored my begging and screaming-- because i had no idea what the hell was happening and was whisked away literally.

Then she told his mother that anymore claims of anything going foward and she wants his actual court ordered phone records seen by a professional before she ever believes anything he says about our communications again.

(most of it was X rated and clearly non threatening)

and then told his mother that my mom and I will no longer be reaching out to them anymore. Ever.

My lawyer said my daughters father is totally bluffing and to laugh it off.

Is this true or is he just trying to talk me down?

I'm shaking im so mad. Can I file something to document this stunt of his that tried to make me look unstable? Just so theres documentation of how bizzare and out of pocket he is being? Is the lawyer just saying this to make me feel better? Can this actually result in harrassment charges or restraining orders?

I want to keep it together and not crash out

But the father is telling people I am obsessed with him and in love with him...while he is..the most overweight he's ever been, smells like binge drinking and does nothing but play videogames and jerk off in the dark

but..sure im just drooling over this man who torments me for fun yummmm, guys i am so exhausted and i'm just trying to do this the right way and he's done nothing but twist narratives.

Please roast me, I got left for dead with a baby bc i trusted someone who switched up the second i got pregnant.

He used to be a completely different person and this has been the biggest humiliation of my life. :)