MIL keeps saying BIL is sick.

Just a rant. None of my business but I'm sick of it because it affects me and I feel like ranting tbh. My MIL is literally a controlling narcissist and she is always trying to control her kids in anyway she can. She can not let her kids live independent adult lives. Seriously.

My BIL is 30 y/o. Smart guy and historically had really good jobs at top companies. Idk how to write this but he quit his first job because he didn't like it, sure. Second job he immediately moved out and literally next day.

A year in and suddenly we hear he is moving back in. MIL takes over all his money and bank accounts. And after an accident where thankfully everyone was ok, he goes on disability for a year and eventually loses his job. And nobody knows why he is on disability. All the Drs cleared him. Again Not my business, his life and maybe the trauma needs time tbh.

It's been 6 years and situation is getting weird and my family suffers from the tension. MIL takes him from one Dr to another until someone says he is sick. NOBODY CAN DIAGNOSE HIM.

She won't let anyone talk to BIL about this and would absolutely lose her shit if my husband tells his brother to go get a job. When I offered him a desktop job that he can do from his bed, MIL immediately shut it down and said he isn't well.

He is on gov assistance and the judge ended up refusing his renewals. MIL would hire lawyers to appeal back until they convince the judge. At this point no lawyer wants to take his case cause there's no medical report. The insurance the same thing. Every Dr keeps giving him different meds and all kinds of treatments. He is always under a treatment. Some pretty new and in testing phase.

Mil knows his whereabouts all the time and makes sure we know it. When we invited him over alone, she got mad and told us she knows he was here. When we text him privately, she tells us that she knows what we texted him about. HE IS NOT A KID!!!

And here is where this affects me directly. MIL is already possessive and controlling, REALLY PAINFUL human, when they come to our home we are on egg shells. We can't do so many things because BIL is sick. Like I'm talking about doing dishes. She is policing the entire house and every room. We can't invite anyone else over too.

When we invite in laws alone, the family always fights because my husband is worried about his brother not furthering in life. And he firmly believes that his brother is not sick and he shouldn't go thru all this treatment that his mom encourages. His mom then starts being so angry and defensive whenever the topic comes up.

Ok rant is over. Not my business but again I feel like ranting.