I don’t understand the purpose of conversations anymore and I’m afraid I’m going to end up crazy.

I (24f) am suddenly adapting a lot of new perspectives about life and not only am I finding most things completely meaningless but most importantly it’s happening with most conversations I have.

I genuinely don’t see a point in discussing most things and now I ask myself “What do we talk about then?”, and I don’t know how to answer that.

First…

I’m sick and tired of content and I’m tired of it feeling like it’s the only way to connect with people.

“What’s your favorite movie? What’s your favorite band? What’s your favorite video game? What are your type of memes?”

It’s how people decide if they pursue a conversation with you or not today, but I don’t think that it’s actually such a personality trait as people think. I don’t think your music taste is your personality. You are not a character from a movie, you are more than that… you know?

I remember the first time I felt like I wasn’t really a person. When I became friends with this girl in high school and noticed she had famous people all over her stuff.

One direction stickers in her pencil case, lady Gaga and Harry Styles in her notebooks and a million images of these people she followed on her phone.

I realized I wasn’t a fan of anything and I started looking for some fandom to belong to so that I could have some “traits”… but they weren’t.

Now I’m done with identifying with these things as if part of gangs and I also don’t want to discuss any form of media anymore.

-I have a question for everyone. If all media was removed completely: no anime, no movies, no music, no shows or games, no memes or TikTok’s what would conversations be like?

Now I feel lost when I talk to people and they only know how to quote memes, discuss that one last anime episode or just joke around throwing internet slang and thinking it’s a joke.

I feel like it’s a complete waste of time so I say nothing. I don’t want to discuss these so I just sit there.

Then, for more “serious” conversations I feel like everyone it’s just talking as if making comments in a post but no one is saying nothing. They just throw in a comment.

Or they talk but don’t ever listen, which is no conversation either. Or they start debating things, it’s always a debate. I’M DONE WITH PEOPLE TRYING TO DEBATE EVERYTHING.

If it’s not a debate then it’s a lot of people just saying anything. Sharing a comment from a comment they saw somewhere or talking about things they don’t actually know about.

Then I’m left with the idea that most humans are just not fit to converse at all and we should just shut up instead…? Im one of them, you know? Sometimes I wanted to talk about something but I realize I don’t really understand it and I would just be sharing my very simplistic and ignorant opinion which serves nothing at all so I just don’t say anything.

Because everyone wants to talk and everyone wants to comment on everything and I feel like I’m drowning in voices and, as I read once I think from Ortega y Gasset “The more mediums of communication there are, the more people want to communicate”.

And politics and moral debates and discussions, and the news, pop culture, stupid famous people discourse… I just don’t want to hear it.

And no, I am not even chronically online and I still need to hear from a lot of this, and still, Im left with the same problem “But what do we talk about instead”.

Just personal things and experiences? Maybe if people knew how to talk nowadays. They just don’t. They don’t really listen. No one does and I just sit there and listen to them.

I used to be such a yapper myself. I discovered that most things I just shared because I wanted to take them out of my head and say them out loud but then I realized I really didn’t care about the other persons opinion, so I started talking to myself or writing things down from time to time.

And I also felt like I could never really just shut the hell up and my brain was always talking so now I feel like I’m better off just being quiet. It’s a crazy thing…

But I do want friends. I want to get married and I want to have good conversations.

I love humans and humanity and I feel like it’s a great thing to see and experience, but it’s like I can’t find it anymore and honestly I am also very ignorant as to participate in better conversations and I feel like I will always be.

Does any of you get this? Do you have any advice maybe?

Thanks for reading.