Conservative boyfriend and his family situation

Okay ill be. Really honest with you that , i journaled , i stopped using my phone to stop any way i can reach him, tried focusing on my studies, discussed with friends, tried to start talking to a new guy , but at the end of the day i feel empty without him,
It’s either my heart and mind is not ready to let go of him or my mind and heart is attached to this toxic habit as it feels familiar
even knowing that he might never change,
Yet crave to build a life with him,
I have never expected anyone to love me or do anything for me , but he was the only boyfriend i ever expected things from and got upset if he didnt do stuff,
He was there for me when no one ever was, he accepted me even when i hurt him or broke his heart,
He always ends up gathering himself and love me the same .
But yeah are knots now between us due to these fights and issues,
But we both never stopped loving each other .

The usual fights is about marriage as his family is kind of over conservative and i belong to a very basic modern family, and he says i have to adjust on somethings and he will too, but my issues are very basic, like i wanna go out and shop alone and do chores and me time out of house, cant wear transitional indian dresses at home for comfort issues as i have never been comfortable in it at home and also i need a house help for house chores , but these things are tooooo modern for his family, and he says it’s his desire too that his wife cooks food for him and dont wanna eat food cooked by a non family member on a daily basis.

And my point is that if i have to adjust even on these basic things since start then idk how many other things he’d feel ill be comfortable adjusting to.

He have 2 elder sisters and 2 younger sisters and 1 younger brother.

One of the elder sister lives with them with her 3 kids and she has no way of earning on her own and only depends on her father and brothers(and thats her right and his family)

But she dosnt respect my brother she always call him all the time for chores and shouts at him, and he gets frustrated by it and still wants me to depends on him for these kinds of chores and this seems bizarre to me as
A partner or a brother is not a worker.
And here our thoughts clash and he is like first ill have to make my parents agree for love marriage how would i tell them that you will not adhere to the rules of this house and i cant promise you that they will at this point of their life .