Feeling a bit let down by my in law baby shower.

Hey everyone!

To start, there was all this drama surrounding my baby shower for my in laws side. We get along okay but have a history of genuine lack of empathy and inconsideration from them. I wasn’t going to ask any of them to throw a shower, and I didn’t really care if they threw one, but they did. Essentially my SIL, MIL, and MILs friend were planning the shower. MILs friend kicked MIL off of hosting duty as it’s “not her job” and put it all on SIL, she was okay with doing the planning but wasn’t ecstatic about it being suddenly thrown on her, MILs friend is having it at her house and making the snacks, but SIL was put in charge of everything else.

SIL sent me the guest list, about 20 people, she sent out e-invites as again, she didn’t know she was on planning duty and didn’t have the money to spend on invites, totally understandable!

The shower is next Sunday, so 10 days away, and SIL sent out a text with 5 people in a group chat just saying “Hey! I need to change the time of the shower to an hour earlier, let me know if this does not work with you!” My mom asked if I was the one that needed to change it, I said no, she then asked if SIL had checked in with me about the last minute time change to make sure it was okay, I said no. She said that was a bit rude to not ask me or mention it to me first in case I had a conflict. Also with only 5 people being in the group chat, seems that either the majority of people aren’t able to come, or maybe invites weren’t sent out to everyone? I’m not sure but seeing now only like 7 people will be there, 2 being my mom and I is a bit disappointing.

I’m probably just in my feels knee deep in pregnancy, and I know I initially didn’t even want one, but now that one is being thrown, it’s stupidly just making me feel like no one really cares to be there, or keep the time/checking to make sure a change schedule works with me first. I know I know, I probably sound super entitled because a shower is a gift and a happy thing and I know I should be grateful for whatever I can get, just today is making me feel more overlooked than grateful.