My brother (19M) doesn't understand privilege

I (17F) have an older brother, (19M). I am a feminist, and have spoken about how women struggle with stereotypes often, and my brother is convinced men have it harder and have more struggles. He goes to a private school, where his friend's sister (18F) is allowed to do minor things he is not, eg sitting on a table, being in a classroom for a subject she does not take, that's it. He is very upset she has 'pretty privilege' and wants equality, which is fair, and I pointed out that men have privelege all the time. He got upset and said that women get treated better, and u brought up how he'd still be paid more than her no matter the job. We've spoken about these things before, about how many PEOPLE (not specifically woman) are raped and woman are unsafe, get he gets very upset about how it is 'not all men', etc. Even with the man or bear question, I explained how I'd choose a bear because the worst thing they could do to me is kill me, and he got all into the statistics and refused to see anyone's side, saying it's so much safer to be with a man.

Everyone has it hard, some people get privelege, others don't, pretty privelege or not. Men have privelege everywhere, and woman don't, so equality feels like oppression to them. Any ideas on making him understand woman _do_ have it worse? (Please take into account we live in South Africa where one in four women have been raped, where a woman is raped every 12 minutes, 118 rape reports a DAY, every single woman I know has some story to tell.)