Keeping hair off of shoulders.

Routine: Deep condition/oil scalp before washing. I Wash every 5/6 days with Nizoral shampoo. Double condition with as I am+ pantene. After I am out I use and oil my ends. I guess this could be a wash and go I refresh basically daily due to frizz. I wear my bonnet nightly

I am trying to grow my hair longer overall. I would need to keep my hair off my shoulders since I want it to grow. The top of my scalp has been sensitive. Doing any style causes tension on my thin fine curls around the crown (mini twists, mini braids, braids, ponytail, hairclip). I have a W pattern from wearing ponytails. but I really need to keep my hair off my shoulders..

Has anyone else been through this before? what did you do?