AIO for being upset about not being invited to a wedding ?

i (23F) am upset i am not invited to a wedding my bf (27M) was invited to. my bf and the groom have been friends for 10 years. we all hung out together when they visited from out of state, i tell him to tell them i said hi when they’re on the phone. we all get along, it was nice. my bf and i have been dating since march 2024, with a few months break later last year, but have been back together. we’ve been an established relationship for a couple years despite our short break. i think im upset because this is going to be the third wedding he’s been invited to since we got together. ive had two weddings on my side and he’s come with me to both. i haven’t been able to go to any of his.

the first wedding my bf was apart of the groomsmen, despite barely knowing the guy (my bf even said it was weird he was apart of the groomsmen- the groom didn’t have many friends, and it was his best friend’s brother), i was upset, because literally everyone else in the friend group was invited (and my bf’s friends weren’t even close to the groom, i don’t even think they would be considered friends). i hung out with this couple multiple times, they’ve come to gatherings, we all went out to dinner, stayed in a cabin all together apart of a large group for a weeklong trip, but i wasn’t invited to the wedding.

the second one was his best friends wedding (my bf was the best man). i was super close to both the bride and groom. we went on trips together, went camping, we saw each other multiple times a week and always did things together. i went to the bachelorette/ bachelor party. my BF and i broke up, but the bride told me she still wanted me to come. two weeks later, she uninvited me to the wedding by asking me to leave the bridesmaids group chat. my bf and i got back together three months before the wedding, but i didn’t go. partly because the groom was an ass to me after we broke up and i wanted an apology before i spent time with them again, and my bf didn’t mention anything to them about wanting me to come. i would’ve went to the wedding if they were willing to clear the air.

the third wedding will be this september and i am not invited. i understand each wedding may have reasons why i didn’t go, but it really sucks this is the third wedding im not going to. he’s come to every wedding i’ve been invited to, and i’ve gone to none of his. when we get married, each person would have been invited to ours, so it feels unfair i can’t go to their weddings, but they would be coming to ours. i always make efforts to be warm and welcoming with his friends and treat them as my own. i feel rejected and excluded. i feel like i have open arms for everyone, and i am never treated the same. i hear so many guys don’t go to weddings because their partner isn’t invited and part of me wishes he wouldn’t go. i’m not sure if my bf tried to advocate for me.. he didn’t really try the last two weddings. my bf is going to the wedding and i honestly wish he wouldn’t go. i feel bad for saying that, even though i wont force him to stay. i know its not his fault, but i feel like he could advocate for me more. im sure if the roles were reversed, he would feel like crap if he wasn’t invited to any of my friends weddings. i bet he’d wonder if none of my friends like him. i feel super upset, rejected, and excluded. maybe i feel upset because i wouldn’t go to a wedding if he wasn’t also invited. i feel bad because i feel like im taking out my frustration on him and i just need some unbiased opinions. am i just overreacting?

i do want to note my bf and his best friend are no longer friends due to disrespect and constant taking advantage of him.. so when we get married they won’t be coming to our wedding after all, but IF they were friends still, they 100% would have been coming to our wedding, if that makes sense.