Looking for advice on how to be able to share a bed with my husband again lol

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Posting this here mainly because I know there’s a large community of folks on here who choose not to sleep train- whether they believe it’s associated with attachment parenting or not. Here we go:

My almost 9 month old, exclusively breastfed baby, wakes up a lot through the night. We were doing a little better with 3ish wakes/night but we’re having a bumpy time again. Anyway. Her crib is in our bedroom for this reason, and because I’ve chosen so far not to do any kind of sleep training. Right now, I respond to her, and once we get to the wee early morning hours, I usually just bring her to bed with me to stretch our morning a little and to avoid getting up more lol.
My husband hasn’t slept in our bedroom since the 6 months-ish mark because all of the sleep regressions hit us hard, and he needs to work. I encouraged this, because it just made the most sense for everyone.

But we’re kind of at this point where we’re like…. Something’s gotta give? We’d really like to be reunited and sleep together again, which brings me here, to see if I’m skipping over any ideas on how to make this happen.

We’ve loosely talked about getting a bigger bed and bed sharing exclusively until I transition her to her own floor bed in her room. But she’s not crawling yet, so that wouldn’t be for a few months. I’m just not convinced that would give everyone better sleep.. I’m not particularly tied to any singular idea, and feel a little conflicted. I’m also not %100 certain bedsharing as a family would even work for us, because my baby likes to STAY latched most of the time.

Should I consider transitioning her to her floor bed early?

Is this simply the way it needs to be for everyone to at least get the best ~possible~ rest for themselves?
I’m sure so many others have been in this position. What worked for everyone else? Thanks for reading

Posted Jun 2, 2026, 1:03 PM UTC

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