Will it ever get better.

I (40 HLM)am bewildered by how I have ended up in this situation in my marriage. The person, my wife (39 LLF) I chose to spend the rest of my days with has almost a non existent sex drive.

It would start off with small comments about wanting to be intimate that were brushed off and then quickly spiraled into full blown arguments.

Comments of all I think about is sex and why do I need is all the time became the norm. I don’t want it all the time, however, more than once every few months would be nice.

When we were dating, we fucked like rabbits and if we cuddled kissed, it was on but no more. Pretty since the beginning of our marriage.

For a while I learned not to ask for it and I thought I was being disciplined and strong but all I was doing was setting a routine for our intimacy. Because how dare I bring up such a subject and I need to get checked out because no one needs to be intimate so often.

She is a SAHM and I help with all home duties and kids. All to help reduce her physical and mental load but all to no avail.

I still am looking for ways to be creative to see if maybe this, hormonal imbalance or whatever it is will change.

Unfortunately, I guess this is the norm. All I can do is keep being a providing husband and a good dad.

I used to blame myself for years thinking it was something I did but I realized it wasn’t me. And that was liberating. It really messes with your confidence and self worth when the person you love the most neglects you on a regular basis.

I must confess some female coworkers have helped me through hard times and I’ve had emotional affairs with a few of them. It is not something I am proud of but everyone has a breaking point.

Keeps your heads up everyone, you are worthy!