How do I communicate and explain how what she did is toxic and hurtful without being all too logical in my way of communication?

I know Corey says to not use logic to argue with a girl, and men who understand women don't argue with them.

But what about feeling and being understood by the girl then? If she does something disrespectful or rude or hurting towards me, and I only listen to her but yet she doesn't want to hear my pain and my side of the story, then how will I be able to get her to stop the toxic and bad ways she's handling/doing things?

If I don't explain with logic how what she did affected me and the relationship, how can I then communicate that across to her? She doesn't seem to like it when I call her out and explain how what she did affected me/us.

I haven't been doing a good job listening to her either. I think that is because I feel resentful that she doesn't acknowledge what I say or treats what I say seriously enough. When she explains her side, I know it is important to listen, but yet at the same time I feel the urge and need to explain my side with logic so that she can also make me feel/know that she understands what she did was toxic and that she won't do it again.

How do I navigate this? Do I listen to her first, then when she feels heard and understood, I bring up my side and let her listen? (Hopefully she listens properly because she's been dismissing my concerns brought up).