Either ADHD is the reason for depression or I have both ADHD and depression

since my teen years i believed i had depression and anxiety and was put on meds for those, increasing the dose each time they didnt work. but this year, at 26 i got adhd diagnosis. i was reluctant to try any new meds so i said i didnt want it. psychiatrist prescribed wellbutrin, and i have been using it for 3 months now.

having a different diagnosis, and reading about it to find out it wasnt all about what tiktok said it was opened my eyes. i realized most of my problems matched the symptoms.

i have two problems now:

1. people around me keep invalidating my diagnosis saying i definitely dont have adhd. i have talked to my music teacher about it because starting meds have lowered my performance and she noticed it. and she said she has seen people with adhd and they struggled a lot, and that i didnt seem to have it. and another friend said she also had self diagnosed adhd and that was why she was so slim, and that i had to be skinny to have it, or that i didnt move around too much. she gave me the example that she goes to a lot of concerts, which proves her adhd ???? and my mom said that doctors nowadays are very unreliable. i know they make no sense but i couldnt find any support from anyone around me.

2. i'm even more depressed than ever. i have no motivation. i used to be on high doses of antidepressants and i had to stop them when i started wellbutrin. i feel terrible, not wanting to wake up but not wanting to sleep either. my house is swimming in mess and dirt. i have so many pets, and i spend all my energy to take care of them. i dont clean at all, and i am also a mess myself. i dont even want to do things i like to do. i have been unemployed for a year, too. and i dont think i can find a job in the state i am.

the only thing i feel a bit better doing is either shopping or eating. i cannot think of anything else. since i'm new here, i dont know if others are also struggling to this point, or how they deal with it by themselves.