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My ex and I, we stopped talking a month ago. She has BPD. A lovely soul, but started getting abusive at times, and when I decided not to be with her, with subtle threats of self harm. Also almost a year ago, she told me about a traumatic experience that made her return to therapy, and also made me start therapy.

I've been missing her, but I agree with my therapist that cutting off contact would be the best for both of us. Although I miss her, I have been making progress on my mental health, and the said traumatic event.

Today, after nearly a month of no contact, and peace starting to return to my life, she managed to email me (I blocked her for my peace of mind), alluding to another event in her life that might be traumatic.

I am now in a dilema... I want to maintain the progress I've made, and it gives me great anxiety to hear what might have happened to her. As the last time something bad happened to her, I was and still traumatized. On the other hand, I do care and she unfortunately relies on me, as she does not have many close friends in the country where currently lives. Ofcourse there is much more to this story, but I would like to hear people's opinions.