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ActiveBrick1

sex before marriage

Intimacy and Connection

I am 20 F and my boyfriend 19 M. We have been dating for almost 6 1/2 months and this is my first relationship where I genuinely love this man and see a future with him. For context I have had past relationships but not many because I was just always focused on myself, school, and relationship with God. I always wanted love but I am very intentional and very careful with who I allow in my life, Id say I have pretty high standards which I do not think there is anything wrong with that. I always wanted to wait until marriage until I met my current boyfriend and he changed everything for me. I would go into details as to why but there are too many. He just treats me so good the way ive always wanted to be treated and everything feels so right with him and aligned. I know for a fact he was meant to be in my life its that feeling of just knowing. Me and him are both virgins and at the beginning of the relationship he was already seeming ready but I definitely was not because I wanted to build something real first and he has not pressured or rushed me or anything. We both want Christ centered in our relationship but I feel guilty if we have sex. I feel ready and I really want that intimacy with my boyfriend. Ive been praying about this A LOT but im not feeling any conviction or getting any sign like I normally do when I pray so it keeps reinforcing like maybe this is right but I genuinely do not know. I also have a huge fear of being hurt but I genuinely feel like I would not regret this especially with us both being virgins. I just feel so different now that im in this serious relationship and idk what to do about it.

Posted Jun 3, 2026, 1:38 AM UTC · locked

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