Let me start off giving a bit of info about myself, and the POV I have with them:

About me:

I am 21 yrs old.

Speak English, little of Spanish.

Have lvl 1 Autism.

Pursuing an Bachelors degree in University. (Eng Tech.)

I am currently living with my Mom + older Sister. (Both parents living separately)

Father: Our conversations almost feels one-sided to me in a way. For example, I would at times call him to ask him a question or just trying to strike up a convo about something, but the thing is that he would keep talking non-stop, would keep rambling about different things (that are sometimes not relevant to what I was asking in the first place), and it makes me feel like I'm not heard at times and barely having a few words in the whole entirety of the conversation.

Mother + older Sister: I feel like this one would be more on my sibling. My sister has the most nastiest attitude and behavior I've ever seen. There would be times where she would gaslight me and manipulate me into thinking that I was always in the wrong and she was right.

Like when she says "You don't know how to cook." or "You don't know how to drive." (I HAVE A DRIVER LICENSE BTW, JUST NOT MUCH EXPERIENCE)

And I feel like thanks to her (my sibling), would influence onto my Mom and she and her would both reflect each other's negative tactics on me. In the past, I couldn't see anything wrong with my sibling's and mom's behavior towards me, hell, even my dad warned me about it (and also told me he went through the same thing what I am going through). Honestly, I should have seen this sooner, it would have probably saved me countless arguments about not cleaning the dishes correctly, or not picking up after themselves. But because of her (my sibling), she probably costed my own sense of self-worth and mental state.

(Honestly the choice seems obvious, but to me, I still don't know why I am hesitating to choose..)

So with those in mind, my first choice is staying with my mom and sister for the summer, or move-in with my dad, in Mexico (which I have bad history with as a kid, prob cuz I have hard time speaking spanish) + he I get the feeling he would offer me a job there.

TL;DR I’m 21, autistic lvl 1, in university, and currently living with my mom and older sister. My sister’s attitude feels toxic and damaging to my self-worth, and I feel like she influences my mom to treat me negatively too. My dad warned me about this before, but conversations with him can feel one-sided because he talks nonstop and I don’t always feel heard. I’m deciding whether to stay with my mom and sister for the summer or move in with my dad in Mexico, even though I have bad history there and struggle with Spanish. My dad might also offer me a job there. The choice seems obvious, but I’m still hesitating.