I’m too big and hurt my wife

At first, things were ‘fine’. She’d have a little blood maybe, would get sore and some inflammation. Finally, after we had been together a bit, she told me that I was the biggest she ever had to deal with, which was cool, but that it hurts, which is bad. We joke that I have ‘boyfriend dick’. Boyfriends it’s fun to have a big one, but for a husband, smaller/average is more comfortable.

Anyways… anyone ever had real success using a dildo to help get stuff stretched, or not really?

Also, as a big maybe, we were talking about possibly finding some friends. And if we can find some where the guy has a more average size, he could help get everything prepped and better for me, cause I wouldn’t be hurting her.

Not sure if this is where it belongs, or sounds dumb, but we’re trying to find something that will help, cause so far we haven’t found anything