When did you first realize you were ‘in biglaw’ also?

Let’s face it, biglaw is stressful for the lawyer, but that stress extends to their entire family in a different way. And often you can’t voice that stress because 1) it takes away from the limited quality time you have, and 2) your stress seems so inconsequential when you aren’t the one working 80hrs.

So when did you first realize biglaw was something happening to you, and not just your partner?

How did you learn to cope?