I’m feeling insane pressure to go to a top school even though I cant

I really want to major in astrophysics, and I’m a high achiever, and I want to prove my family and other people around me that I’m smart and that I can do whatever I set my mind to. I also want to inspire my sister by showing her anything is possible if you put your mind to it. But there’s just no way I’m getting into NYU or Columbia. Even with top grades, a hopefully amazing essay, and I’m estimating a really good SAT score, my EC’s aren’t good enough. Now I’m feeling like I’m settling or giving up, even though it wasn’t in my reach ever. Most of the reason I want to go to those colleges is because I want to study and live in NYC. I also want to get far away from my hometown. It’s feeling pretty impossible and depressing now. I also want to get a really good education and challenge myself to the highest possible degree. I searched it up and some sources said the education in ivies is much better and more hardcore. I’m just really sad I won’t be able to experience that, so I guess I’d like consolation or smth but idrk.