It sounds crazy but I wish I got to experience the other side of bpd

Them being obsessed with you. You being the center of their world. I've always just wanted to feel needed I guess. My wife with her ex said he was her fp and that she was "obsessed" and when they broke up it was really hard for her. I never got that. Maybe in the beginning she'd get clingy or feel abandoned but never on the level of what it seemed like with her ex.

Instead I often get the intense angry ... Side of bpd. The intense moments of hate it feels like. But sometimes during a fight she will say "you abandoned me" even when I just take space or do something she'd rather me not do.

Thoughts? Sometimes I just wish my wife would act all obsessed with me instead of being on my neck I guess