BF(42) AND I (31) got into long distance 3 months ago. I was laid off and it took a toll on me, but I was still trying. And he suddenly wanted to break up. How do you know if they ever truly loved you? And do people realise when it's too late?

It has been so difficult for me. Mentally, physically being away from him. But I got laid off and had to come back and figure out my life so that we can reunite. He had promised to wait for me. And in 3 months he just cracked, and he forgot everything it took to build what we had in a year and half. I loved him with pure intention, and I always stayed open with my communication about how I felt about him. And this was the time I needed him the most, and he decided to leave me. I was always told that people who truly love you will sit through the discomfort and study you. I know I prayed for him, and I was working very very hard so that we could reunite. I had whole picture of how our life would turn out.

And he just got on a video call and broke my heart into pieces. I am not coping well because of what he meant to me. People tell me relationships will test you and you fight for it, but the fact that he left just because of the long distance makes me wonder if he ever genuinely loved me for who I was.

We met on a dating app, there was never any lack of men to go on a date with. But sometimes you come across people who you let your guards down, slowly, but fully aware that it means something. And that was him for me. I guess I feel more hurt that I believed he would carry that I side I showed to him with carefulness, and that's why it hurts to know how he mishandled it. That's why it hurts to trust people and they abandon you when you are at the lowest you could ever be, but not broken down. They knew you still had the ability to rise, they just didn't want to stick around and hold your hand while you did that.

So I wonder, when situation like that happens to a person, especially when they are away. Do people who dumped them overtime realise what they lost when they wanted the easy route out? Or is it just about surface level happiness and sunshine, and nobody has the time to hold on and make a choice to love a person anymore?

The worst feeling was that through the whole long distance, he never asked me my address and I used to hope so badly that he would, and I would receive just a bunch of flowers. That's all it would have taken to make me happy. But he asked me for my address to send me back my belongings. It stung.

I hate modern relationships, and how easily people dispose people, and keep doing that in a loop over and over again.

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