Overwhelmed by discord

am i the only one who totally gets overwhelmed by discord?

these days any product you buy or software you use, refers to their discord for support or to join their community

my discord has become a hot mess of many servers, notifications are disabled because they were driving me crazy, i have to mute almost all servers because even highly curated its a barrage of updates due to public messages and spam

asking a question feels useless because (obviously) you wont get am immediate answer from the project but in the meantime several other people also ask their questions or have cozy conversations about other stuff.

i cant keep waiting for hours so i have to return in a few days (but sometimes i forget for weeks due to disabled notifications) and scroll up several pages just to find my own question, wading through noise and distractions.

and how am i supposed to build any meaningful connections when its just hundreds upon thousands of people talking over eachother?

and so many rooms, why do they all have so many rooms?

anyways, thanks for listening to my discord rant