Clitoral pain red purplish swollen help

I have had re-occurring UTIs for awhile but this past UTi brought on a swelling of my clitoris that has not gone away even after the infection is gone. I have gone to the hospital multiple times they won’t do anything they don’t even look at the clitoris. I have an urology appointment on Thursday this is my second one the first one they put me on a daily macrobid. I also see the primary care again tomorrow. I cannot live like this I cry every day and look forward to just being asleep so I don’t have to deal with the pain. I don’t know what to do and I’m scared is going to be like this forever I’m so scared and feel so dismissed by my doctors. I also cannot empty my bladder fully I have terrible urine retention in a way I’ve never had with a UTi before. Something is seriously wrong ! Any advice I will take it ! So far I’m doing pelvic floor exercises I am trying coconut oil I take probiotics I take cranberry supplements I drink lots of water all day I don’t drink caffeine pop or any sugar. What do I do I can’t live like this anymore