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anjaruhi

29 [F4M] Philippines/Europe - Take me away, kindly!

F4M Philippines

Hello! Lovely to meet you all!

Warning: To put it nicely, I'm not up for NSFW shenanigans.

If this is familiar, then yes, I’m back to try again. No harm in that, right? Just keep fishing!

It's long, (it filters people well so I’ll keep it) but I hope you'll get a kick at reading long-ass rambling from an internet stranger!

About me:

  • 29, single and doesn't have kids
  • Doing freelance work for 4 years now. Job market’s been saturated lately so I look at my free time as a vacation of some sorts haha
  • Around 155 cm in height, tan-skinned, wears glasses, have brownish chin-length hair (growing out a red colour hair dye at the moment) and a chubby body type
  • Introverted and shy at first (as we all are) but I warm up fast
  • Been in three long-term relationships
  • Have minimal tattoos and multiple ear piercings
  • Love-love animals! I have been adopted by a cat 
  • Reads books when I can, mostly watches movies/series to pass the time, don't have any preferred genres on both departments, as long as they pique my interest I’ll give them a chance

About you:

I'm looking for someone who is around age 29 and up, single, doesn't have kids, shares the same values as I do, and is looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship.

Also, I am with the intent of dating to marry.
(I could go on a winding rant on why I would rather date outside my country but this could take longer than it already is and so I won't haha)

I don't like mind games or any of that "situationship" crap. That achieves absolutely nothing and will just waste both of our time.

To iterate, we don't have to start off romantically.

I still believe that it's best to establish a friendship before taking things further.
BUT I won't mind if you want to jump straight to a dating status as we can establish friendship that way, too.

Just please, be communicative with your intentions.

If we click, we'll see where it gets us.

I'm not opposed to doing long-distance, but it would be nice to meet either once or twice in a year (only if you're willing and able) and eventually close the gap, though quantity may vary due to the distance, costs and our preferences.

I expect you to be communicative (quality, not quantity) and that you'll have extra patience and a positive attitude towards this setting.
Someone who’s generous of their presence and time.
Don't worry, I'll do the same, if not, tenfolds!

I value honesty and transparency (emotional intelligence).

I am, by no means, a perfect individual as I have flaws, my fair share of bad days, and shortcomings.

I don't expect you to be perfect and be on top of your (mental) game constantly.

I love vulnerability in a man, so please don't shy away from that once you get comfortable.

As I have an abundant capacity for patience and understanding, it would be nice if you possess those as well as I could have the tendency to disappear for hours, not days.

I have random, mild depressive episodes and I self-regulate in this manner. It’s just my way of not burdening someone else of my own struggles.

I may take my time and I’ll update you but at the end of it all, I’ll always come back.

Now, if you've reached this part, not put off by that last paragraph and still want to send a message, please write more than just a "Hi" or "Hello", I believe in you!

If it's okay, send a picture as well, it would be nice to attach a face on the person I'll be talking to.

Alright, that's it!

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk!

See you in my chats!

Posted Jun 3, 2026, 11:59 AM UTC · locked

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