Am I wrong to want honesty and communication from him?

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Its about me (26f) and this man(36m).

We used to text a lot in the beginning, we met online 8 months ago, met in real once, he used to text me goodmorning and I used too. And goodnight and during the day and stuff. He was clingy and affectionate in the beginning. Blowing up my phone and stuff. Even on busy days he would take time to call and text me.

For example on Monday I sent him text around 3 pm asking bout his day because he hasn't reached out in the morning, he replies, I reply and then silence for the rest of the day.

Yesterday I call him 7 AM and he was heading to work. I text him around 12 and he doesnt text me back for hours. At 7 pm he is coming back from work, I call, and he says he was up since 5 AM and its almost 8 pm and he needs to eat and rest and stuff. I told him oh its okay I just wondered why you didnt text me back. He told me "Im trying to tell you I've been on feet for 15 hours and I'm trying to eat and rest" and I said yes ok Im sorry, take a rest :) and hung up.

He sends me voice memo"I'm sorry I shouldnt talk like that...sorry" I text back saying its ok, take a rest 🩵 However, he is up since 6:30 today, I am up since 5:30 everyday and he doesnt text me goodmorning for some time. It was ok 1,5 weeks ago and we texted more but he Has those periods sometimes when he doesnt reach out, I ask if something is wrong and stuff.

In the beginning we were texting back and forth for whole day with pauses of course but he actually wanted to text me in the morning, sent me pictures on way to work and stuff. He told me few days ago he has a lot going on and sometimes he gets angry at me and told me "I know how I talk to you and you should have told me to get the fuck out long time ago".

Should I pull back and for example not text him today at all and wait? Or Ask why is he so quiet lately (which I don't want to do because its puts pressure on him) also don't want to be the first reaching out everyday

When I asked if I'm important to him, if he still wants to keep contact he says yes, however he has days when he doesnt reach out.

To clear this up: we are not dating, we met online, met in real once, we are not in relationship, however he used to call everyday and he was clingy and texting all the time

Also when it comes to him - drug use involved, he gets angry at me often during convo, he often says he is a loser and feels like trash

I asked 2 weeks ago why we talk less and if he is talking to someone else? He denied definitely and said "but I understand it might look like this, no I'm not talking to someone else"

One day he didnt reach out at all and turns out he was smoking pot at home. I called him and we talked but I had to call first

He told me few days ago that he knows "he's getting worse" and sees how he talks to me. Maybe that's why he doesnt talk to me as much. I don't know. He told me once "I haven't talked to anybody, idk everything makes me angry lately"

And he has days when he is more consistent. I don't know if I should ask about someone else again or be silent

TLDR; A man I am talking to is texting and calling me less