Sleep anxiety

Hello, about a year and a half ago I experienced intense sleep anxiety I wasn’t sleeping some nights and it was overall an anxiety induced nightmare. I eventually was able to fix this after like a month or so. Three weeks ago after a kidney stone my anxiety levels went way up and I was not sleeping or hardly sleeping some nights. This has continued, I’ve tried a few medications but they honestly cause more side effects more than anything. I’m struggling immensely at this point I slept 4.5 hours last night without meds and it was fragmented I’d say I slept 2 hours straight and then woke up repeatedly throughout night. It’s so distressing, and I know advice often suggests don’t overthink and “just let it happen” but I literally lay in bed for hours and I’m lucky to get any sleep some nights. Idk what else to do I’m over meds, I have sleep apnea which may contribute but I can’t wear a damn vacuum on my face. Any positive success stories or insight? This is exhausting.